A new visitor appeared at our suet feeder. It looked like a nuthatch, but it was a beautiful chestnut brown instead of slate gray. It had an eye stripe.
I asked my birder friends, and eventually someone came up with the answer: a Carolina wren.
What i had failed to notice was the perky tail and the ever so slightly curved beak. Now that i see those features, i see them clearly.
Identifying our emotions can be similarly blurry. We know the feeling in the body, although even those sensations are blurry for some people. But what's the name of that emotion? It takes a while to develop the emotional intelligence and the emotional fluency to identify the emotions in our very own body. "Well, it sort of feels like...." What?