Before our unskillful thoughts and actions "freeze" into bad habits, it's time to dig them out. Oh, it's not easy, trudging through our inner landscape, which can feel bleak.
The sassy comeback can feel so good. Practice biting your tongue, cooling your heels. Perhaps it will lead to less regret.
The quick defensive response to blame just hurls a hot potato back to the person who threw it at you. Practice holding the hot potato. (Ouch! That hurts.) Practice dropping it.
Keep digging around those unskillful thoughts and actions. Eventually, the ground won't be frozen. And neither will you.
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